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Self-Care 101: Avoiding things is okay

I thought about this all day today, in part because there's a presidential address to Congress tonight. Citizen Kelly is all "I should do my duty and listen", but Kelly's Sanity is all "Meh, you can always find out what he said later. Why torture yourself?"

Kelly's Sanity is so so smart today. Because there will be clips on the news, if I want to watch them. And the whole thing will turn up online, both in video and in transcript form. So if I don't want to actually listen to the words coming out of his mouth, I can read them instead. Again, if and when I want to. (I will likely want to, but still . . . why let someone else make those decisions for me?) So tonight I'm going to take a bath and drink (well, finish) this glass of really good red wine (it's a really nice Mondavi Cabernet Sauvignon), and finish reading Eloisa James's latest novel, Seven Minutes in Heaven. Possibly I will do those all at the same time, but probably not. And hey - I get to make that decision for myself.

So here's permission for you to do as you'd like this evening. And truly, every day and evening forevermore. You can avoid stuff you don't want to do. I mean, most of the time - especially when it's non-essential, like reading/watching the news or catching up on the latest shenanigans in politics or publishing or whatever. You absolutely CANNOT avoid feeding your children or your pets. Or yourself. (That's the subject of a forthcoming post.)

But when it comes to the sorts of things that society or your mother thinks you "should do" because of reasons that are not always clear or even logical, you have permission not to do them. Take care of you. Protect your own Sanity. It will prevent those unnecessary things that you don't want to do from sapping your strength and energy, which means that in the end, you'll have more energy for all those other things that you want to do.


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boreal_owl
Mar. 2nd, 2017 08:45 pm (UTC)
After having too many T-inspired nightmares, I decided to watch the 6:00 news, but the 11:00 version. M understands and, if he really wants to watch the late news, he does in another room. And, like you, I avoid watching his speeches. I get my news from trusted sources: my local newspaper and trusted newspapers on Twitter (NYT and WP). I try to stay away from Twitter at night, but if I'm there, I usually tweet something fun or a tulip or owl photo before I leave.
kellyrfineman
Mar. 8th, 2017 04:43 pm (UTC)
I follow a bunch of reporters on Twitter now - I find I get really good news coverage that way, without necessarily watching the national news. I think that establishing boundaries the way you've done is super-smart and really necessary in today's climate. It's impossible to be outraged all the time without (a) becoming inured to it or (b) becoming physically ill. Neither of those seem like good ideas!

Hugs!!
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